Our busyness is eroding our ability to communicate effectively with our children because we are focusing on just surviving the manic days of our lives. We get home, mildly euphoric at having got through the working day without telling anyone, least of all our boss, to do one. We pick the kids up from school triumphant because we made sure that all 14 of the different bags they had to take to school actually made it home with them again. We feel gleeful when we get home after navigating the traffic without road rage, accident or diversion to outer mongolia. Most of all we get home and just collapse into a grateful heap that the "working" day is over and can we have just 5 minutes on our own without someone hassling us before the unpaid work starts? I think we can all identify with this and will have faced it at one time or another. Yet if this is the norm it's sending our loved ones signals that they can't talk to us.Read More
Let's get real though.
So that's why I think grading is important, in short, you experience a challenge and you have a simple way to measure progress. However, I'm also aware that gradings don't measure some things that matter when confronting real-life violence. Naturally, this is what is so difficult about teaching self-defence. We can create as much pressure testing and scenario training as we like, but you don't know for sure you'll react until that moment comes. I've trained with people who have never ever graded, they just train for the love of it. Some exude a certain aura and I am pretty confident they will be able to handle themselves. Then I met a black belt who had been brutally attacked and injured because they froze at a critical moment. I do not believe there is any correlation between what grade you are and how much of a badass you are.Read More
Rory Miller is the kind of guy that you could walk past and not pay any attention to. Unlike Dan John who is a bear of a man that you’d be hard pressed to miss in a crowd, Rory is an expert at being the grey man. I’m not 100% sure if he designs it so, I’d be surprised if he didn’t because he’s one of the most cerebrally challenging (in a good way) humans that I’ve ever met.Read More