What I learnt from our recent grading.

What did I learn?

I learnt that you have to take risks sometimes, I wasn’t comfortable awarding everyone a merit and yet I couldn’t say there was one child who didn’t deserve their patch. It wasn’t a decision I made lightly. As I was writing up their individual feedback I reflected on their performances and everyone had done something fantastic. That is rare. I also learnt that courage takes many forms. Some of the students were way outside their comfort zone and they didn’t panic or run away from the challenge. They faced it and did their best. I can’t ask them for more than that.

I also learnt that I cannot do these things on my own. I’ve always said that Focus is a community. Without the help of Kayleigh and Tracy I could not have run the grading, at least not safely. So thanks ladies, I really appreciate your help. Here’s to the next one!!

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5 ways to make sure you stay safe on your holiday.

5) Learn some self-defence. 

I have always said to people who ask me about self-defence that it's very much like insurance. You don't really know how good your cover is until you need to make a claim, or if you don't have any insurance you don't know how much you needed it until it's too late. As I said previously I think humans are amazing and I am blessed in my life that I am surrounded by so many wonderful people who enrich my life. I know that thinking people are inherently good is one of my bias's, yet I refuse to allow that to blind me to the small chance that someone out there could wish me harm and act upon it. This is why I train krav maga and teach it. In the classes we teach at Focus Krav Maga we learn techniques but we also explore the principles of krav maga and the psychological aspects of self-defence. Rory Miller always says that self-defence is an open system and thus we need to mindful of this. A fixed mindset is a liability. 

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Terminal Velocity Part 2 What I learnt jumping out of a plane at 15000 feet!

Through the clouds.


Suddenly the clouds were gone and I could see the earth below me, a very long way away. I have no idea of the altitude and honestly, it didn't really change the way I was feeling about the jump. I was still terrified, I kept expecting to enjoy it at any moment, yet that moment was elusive. By this time my heart felt as if it was beating at an insane rate, I'd managed to persuade them to let me keep my fitbit on so I could get a rough idea of what my heart rate was doing at any one time. If I'd had to guess I'd have said it was about 180bpm. As we continued to fall I began to wonder about the second part of the jump. Perhaps that is when the fun would start.

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