What I learnt from our recent grading.

What did I learn?

I learnt that you have to take risks sometimes, I wasn’t comfortable awarding everyone a merit and yet I couldn’t say there was one child who didn’t deserve their patch. It wasn’t a decision I made lightly. As I was writing up their individual feedback I reflected on their performances and everyone had done something fantastic. That is rare. I also learnt that courage takes many forms. Some of the students were way outside their comfort zone and they didn’t panic or run away from the challenge. They faced it and did their best. I can’t ask them for more than that.

I also learnt that I cannot do these things on my own. I’ve always said that Focus is a community. Without the help of Kayleigh and Tracy I could not have run the grading, at least not safely. So thanks ladies, I really appreciate your help. Here’s to the next one!!

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Is it possible to bullyproof your children?

Our busyness is eroding our ability to communicate effectively with our children because we are focusing on just surviving the manic days of our lives. We get home, mildly euphoric at having got through the working day without telling anyone, least of all our boss, to do one. We pick the kids up from school triumphant because we made sure that all 14 of the different bags they had to take to school actually made it home with them again. We feel gleeful when we get home after navigating the traffic without road rage, accident or diversion to outer mongolia. Most of all we get home and just collapse into a grateful heap that the "working" day is over and can we have just 5 minutes on our own without someone hassling us before the unpaid work starts? I think we can all identify with this and will have faced it at one time or another. Yet if this is the norm it's sending our loved ones signals that they can't talk to us. 

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5 ways to make sure you stay safe on your holiday.

5) Learn some self-defence. 

I have always said to people who ask me about self-defence that it's very much like insurance. You don't really know how good your cover is until you need to make a claim, or if you don't have any insurance you don't know how much you needed it until it's too late. As I said previously I think humans are amazing and I am blessed in my life that I am surrounded by so many wonderful people who enrich my life. I know that thinking people are inherently good is one of my bias's, yet I refuse to allow that to blind me to the small chance that someone out there could wish me harm and act upon it. This is why I train krav maga and teach it. In the classes we teach at Focus Krav Maga we learn techniques but we also explore the principles of krav maga and the psychological aspects of self-defence. Rory Miller always says that self-defence is an open system and thus we need to mindful of this. A fixed mindset is a liability. 

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